THE NOT SO BLONDE TRAVEL

In his latest blog post titled '2015: closing cycles,' Coelho wrote "Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away."  It is 2016 today so I guess everything in 2015 should be in the past at this point, but something has come back to haunt me. One of my closest friends, a girl I have been friends with since my teenage years, dropped a bomb on me. She said I had to choose between our friendship and my friendship with her ex-boyfriend. If you are a guy, you are probably rolling your eyes right now 'cause you don't even understand how this could be an issue. But if you are a girl, you might be thinking "OMG, of course you can't."  But this is not high school anymore and life is not black or white. There is a lot of gray. And I believe this is one of those situations. Let me explain.  Best friend and X dated for almost 5 years. There were a lot of up and downs, and a million breakups happened before the final br...

A post about an ex boyfriend reappearing would have been funny, but it wouldn't have been that unique. All of us have had ex boyfriends reappear a month later, when they felt lonely, or a year later, when they realized their new girlfriend was not half the fun you were, or ten years later when they realized they married the wrong girl. Add Facebook to the mix, and usually you get some interesting messages from your past, people you haven't spoken it in forever who need a favor, e.g."we haven't spoken in ten years but I see you are a flight attendant ... may I have a free ticket?" Or ex boyfriends who haven't achieved the uncoupling process. But if you are my cousin's ex boyfriend, why would you send me a message? And what does your message even mean, aside from the fact that you belong in a psych ward? "Hi miss its nice to ... really many good memories together ... I really regret my youthful mistakes with your cousin ... I promise." Th...