THE Engagement Ring

My cousin just got engaged last week and I know she loves her ring because not only is it gorgeous, but especially because she chose it. Every little detail concerning the ring was her choice, so I was a bit surprised she wasn't wearing it when we woke up together on Sunday, the morning after she had gotten engaged.

When I mentioned the lack of ring on her finger, she shrugged my concern off with two - very lame - excuses: "it's Sunday" and "I am tired." I had to laugh at both excuses, and of course the writer in me saw a great opportunity for a post.

How many girls do not like their engagement ring and wear it anyways? How many girls have the guts to say they don't like it? And especially what happens next? Does the guy just exchange the ring or does the engagement end right there 'cause the guy's ego is hurt ...

The official answer of what to do when you don't like the ring is "keep the ring, it's a sign of his love, nothing else matters bla bla bla bla ... And maybe upgrade the ring on your 10th anniversary." But most girls will disagree. They don't want to wear something they don't like.



I have a different answer: if the guy doesn't know you well enough to have some idea of what ring would make you happy, how happy is this guy going to make you for the rest of your life? How well does the guy know you?

I am not talking about a ring being smaller than what you expected because his $70,000 yearly salary didn't allow a 15 carat diamond ... That's just crazy talk, or at least I think it is, I don't even know if 15 carat is big or small, and honestly I have never thought to this day about what kind of ring I want. However I might be an exception because most of my girlfriends seem to know exactly what they want, even the ones without boyfriends.

But anyways I am not talking about the price tag. If the price tag is your problem, you are a materialistic B... and your boyfriend should dump you.  I am talking about the style: white gold, rose gold, yellow gold, diamond, no diamond, sapphire, ruby etc ... that kind of stuff.

If your guy is not capable of figuring that out, are you sure you two know each other well enough? Maybe, just maybe, both the ring and the guy are wrong for you. Just saying ...

Agree or Disagree?

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