Breakup App

Yesterday as I was flying to Paris, I asked my coworker what his plans were. "Breaking up with my boyfriend," he answered.

I said I was sorry - break ups  were never fun - but he said not to be, because it was already over and done with. "We are just meeting to talk and get closure."

I said closure was useless. You have to get over him or her on your own.

I did that closure mistake once, and hopefully never again. It was awkward for both my ex and I, and useless probably for both. It was my first encounter with the whole closure situation. I never understood this need before.

Before nobody had really broken up with me, however I had never really broken up either. I just was very good at disappearing or making it just very complicated for anything to work. So every time it was over, I knew exactly why, and a part of me wanted it to be over anyways.

Then one happy day, I got blindsided by a breakup. Did not expect it, did not want it, and definitely did not understand it! The following day, not only did I understand  what closure was all about, but I wanted it, I needed it.

Being polite, my ex agreed to meet up, we talked, he fed me a bunch of lines about me being awesome and about this not being about me but about him. I replayed those words again and again, none of them making sense since he had told me a few days earlier how lucky he was to have such an amazing girlfriend.

We had only been dating for a few weeks, but somehow I was devastated. Later on, I wondered  what had devastated me the most: the break up and the fact that I missed our friendship so badly or how
clueless I was to why he had decided to call it quits.

I didn't know then, and I still don't know now.

Closure did not help. Time did ... Or maybe the therapist (just kidding!)

Ps: if neither closure helped nor the therapist, check out this BREAKUP APP   that allows you to "kill" all traces of your ex from Facebook ... It might not really work, but at least it will give you a good laugh.